Asking for Help
When there’s a choice between being too self-reliant and not self-reliant enough…I generally err on the self-reliant side. It’s my basic wiring, and it was exacerbated by many years of having to do most of the heavy lifting in my life on a lot of levels.
Now, though, I have enormous practical and emotional support in all parts of my life – most especially from my dear Patrick, my wonderful business partner, Jeff, my long-time assistant, Anne, and my daughter, Rachel. And as I’m getting better at recognizing when I need support and accepting it when it’s offered, I’m seeing all the benefits of asking for help.
Letting others share the load creates wonderful bonds of mutual respect and appreciation. It allows you to benefit from others’ strengths and skills as they benefit from yours. It reinforces the reality that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts; that two or more people truly partnering and fully supporting each other can accomplish much more than the same number of people working individually.
I really enjoy Mary Jo Asmus‘ blog; she writes clearly and well, she talks about interesting stuff, and I find her insights illuminating. I especially like today’s post, about how to ask for others’ help when you’re stuck on a problem or in a situation. It especially resonated for me, given my recent reflections on allowing myself to be supported….I thought you might enjoy it, too.