The Weather Outside Is Frightful…
This may be the first time, as an adult, that I’ve ever taken a snow day. Well, it’s not an actual snow day, I guess, since I’m still working – but where I’ve not been able to get to work because of the snow. Amazingly, I don’t think I’ve actually ever even missed a work gig due to a canceled or postponed flight (a combination of luck and tenacity, I think).
It’s strange how strange it feels. It’s literally no different at all from yesterday; I worked from my home upstate all day yesterday, since I had no in-person meetings; just phone calls and writing to do. But this morning we couldn’t get out of our driveway, and so had to stay home: I canceled a lunch in the city and changed one face-to-face appointment into a phone call.
So, just like yesterday, I’m working out of my living room, writing and talking on the phone. And yet it feels completely different. It’s causing me to reflect on how much of reality takes place inside our own heads. The only real difference between yesterday and today is that I didn’t expect to be here; I thought I would be in NYC.
Recently, someone in my life made a huge change that had lots of negative repercussions on those around that person, and I’ve been wondering why – it seemed out of character. And I’m coming to think it’s because the situation this person was in, while literally no different than the situation had been a month before, felt completely different: not what was expected and therefore deeply uncomfortable. And so this person acted in a pretty radical and precipitous way to get back to something that felt more comfortable, more normal.
My take-away from this: when I’m in a situation that makes me uncomfortable because it feels different, out of my control – I have to be especially careful to take a breath and proceed in a way that’s good for me and for others, vs. out of reaction to my own discomfort.